I opted out of writing a super long list of 2012 learnings, and instead decided to focus on one thing I always knew but could never articulate…the value of TRUST in all relationships. In 2012 I finally got to understand one thing that makes me tick…I’d rather be trusted than liked (obviously both is ideal, but if I had to choose one), but I can work on you liking me over time if you trust me, but if my word means nothing, then I have nothing.
Read this quote below, and DON’T read another thing. Step away from your computer for 2 minutes and just think about it for a sec.
“The moment there is suspicion about someone’s motives everything becomes tainted…” -Gandhi
Now ask yourself…who are you suspicious of at work? When they make a mistake (and we all do), do you give them benefit of the doubt? Or do you spend time trying to hunt down the truth, thinking of their angle, assuming they are doing something bad to you? Think of a time where someone screwed something up and you spent hours trying to verify the “real story” or “creating a case”, whether what that person said was true or not, you have indicated that you have no trust in them.
Now flip it, take another mistake someone made whom you have high trust in, when they came to you and admitted their mistake – did you spend hours digging to verify the truth? NOPE, you gave them benefit of the doubt, if they are someone you trust they probably approached you with a solution or how to avoid this again, and you all went back to work, working on the things that matter most.
In the first scenario (low trust) – you might invest hours or days (and tons of mental anguish) trying to figure out the truth, not working on your job for the day or spending time with your families.
In the second scenario (high trust) – you probably went back to work within minutes.
Which one is a better environment for you? Now ask yourself are you building that kind of environment for your clients and co-workers?
Low trust companies are slower because too often people question each others motives, and as you scale this lack of trust can grind decisions to a halt, while everyone stops to think…what’s the catch, what’s her angle?
This thought process started on a beach in Honduras…Since SEER’s inception we’ve given people the opportunity to work from home for a couple of hours a day (I’ve been logging about 3 hours on average) between Christmas and New Years, that is 12 consecutive days off this year.
Every year, Crystal and I tell our teams, whether or not we do that next year is up to you, don’t slack (keep our trust) and not keep up to date on client work and we’ll do it next year, if trust is broken, we’ll do it again next year just those people will be gone. If you think about it, taking off for 12 days and not expecting anyone to check in, would be detrimental to our clients, as Google, Twitter, Bing are making changes over that time and our paid search teams are managing hundreds of thousands of dollars in that stretch, so completely off doesn’t build that “we’ve got your back” style trust.
So back to the beach…most years because I have this downtime, Nora and I travel, last year it was Honduras, and man within the first day I could tell we were stuck, it was remote, when it rained we couldn’t get off the resort, and Nora and I are not resort people. I frantically jumped on wifi looking for flights to Rio, Medellin, anywhere… the problem is that there were like some days where no flights came onto the island, and we were going to be stuck for 9 days. So I read, a LOT, one book I read was Speed of Trust, and many of you are probably sick of hearing me say this, but that book summed up most of the things I learned this year.
Most of the lessons learned were around trust (duh), how to build it, and more importantly how we destroy it. If you do ONE thing in 2013, its to read that book.
This year I want to keep working on building trust with my team, my wife, and my clients, so when I make mistakes their first reaction is to give me benefit of the doubt, hopefully they in turn will do the same when I make mistakes, because I can guarantee that I will make mistakes, but I never have bad intentions when I do.
If I ask you how do you build integrity? How would you answer that?
My answer is simple…Make and keep commitments not just to your friends , coworkers, or boss, keep commitments to yourself. If you can’t keep commitments to yourself how do you build confidence you can do the same for others? If I see you from a distance committing to one thing and doing the opposite 2 weeks later, how do you think I’ll look at you when I need you?
As with most of my posts, I want to share some big mistakes made at SEER this year and how we used those mistakes to Illustrate trust in our team.
Tolerance for BIG mistakes w/ 3 examples…
On page 117 of the book there is a great example of how a manager at one of Warren Buffet’s companies made a 360 Million dollar mistake, Buffet kept him on board, the lesson there is if the company doesn’t tolerate mistakes, then you will build a culture where people don’t feel comfortable making decisions, grinding your company to a halt or building so many layers of management that you move slower.
The “Guest Post” Mistake
This year, we had someone reach out to SEOmoz for a guest post…(head smack)… OH NO! This person had not made massive contribution to the company yet, as they had only been here for 2-3 months, this would have been easy to fire them (it was not a 360 Million Dollar mistake, but it felt like it to me) we kept this person on board and said, let’s show you how to do REAL outreach and they are committed to getting better everyday! Thats a win, that is a win that builds trust throughout SEER. It builds trust with that person, but also tells the company, we are OK making mistakes…once…and learning from them.
The “oops I spent 15k of the client’s money in 2 weeks” mistake
We had someone spend 15k in PPC when they weren’t supposed to for a client we’ve had for about 6 years, Crystal who is my right hand man, woman, friend, you name it…hit me up, you know what she said…I want to give back all of the money out of SEER’s pocket. That hurt the wallet, but warmed the soul, as I look back at this year, hearing Crystal take that approach was HUGE, she wanted to take 15k of SEER’s money and give it back, ultimately we gave back a little over 50%, but I love that her FIRST reaction was to give it all, then after an analysis of the situation we realized we did get some conversions just at a high CPA, so she gave back half.
What you don’t know is that Crystal has been working tirelessly to work on our SEM team’s profitability (I wish she would blog about this), she knew this would set her back from the goals I set for the year. She also knew that this would show the client how much we cared, and it is how she would like to be treated, did that build trust… YOU BETCHA! She chose relationships over money! NICE!
Now this client has been with us for 6 years and we never made a mistake like that EVER, so we could have chalked it up to “but we never make mistakes like this” and see what happens. I have seen several people at other agencies get fired over offenses like this, again, the person at SEER approached Crystal with a solution (fixing it), immediately told her when they found it (not hiding it), and they were nervous after seeing other people fired at previous agencies for making that same mistake. This person is still one of our rising stars and we can’t wait to see what they do in the future!
This mistake was a HUGE win for Crystal because
- She built trust with the client, while hurting her monthly profitability to do what she thought was right
- She built trust with her team members, by not firing them, and showing that SEER has tolerance for mistakes (as long as we learn from them)
- She built trust with ME, as when I look out at how Crystal makes decisions and as I ask her to do more to help this company and to help me run this company, I know she will do what’s right for the client and her team FIRST
- To me it was also a win for her teammate, who immediately admitted his mistake, developed a solution to fix it. Making mistakes is expected, so making mistakes doesn’t break trust, hiding your mistakes and making someone find them does.
I have to write a separate post about this, but I’ll give the TL:DR version here.
The “Another new account manager this year, Wil?” Mistake
One of our best clients ended up having two account managers this year as we either let them go, or they felt the pressure and left. I felt horrible, this client is GREAT to SEER…and I was embarrassed that I had staffed the project with the wrong people (mistakes are mirrors, victories are windows…see below). The second account manager asked for an “opportunity” to show me and the team they could handle this…and I trusted that they would, unfortunately they didn’t handle it, and within 3 months of putting this person on one of my favorite accounts they quit, with no 2 weeks, and no initial offer to help transition. I was stuck.
Immediately I became an account manager, and I managed 5 projects as the day to day contact, on top of my other roles, which already gave me a full workload. I had to tell my wife that for the foreseeable future things would be tough, I would be coming home much later than usual, I would be cranky; I would sacrifice sleep so I could still spend a little time with my mom, wife, friends, etc. See, this is the GLUE that holds a REAL team together…when people care about one another enough that they try to help. So many people jumped in to help!
F being the “CEO”, our reputation was on the line with one client, and the best team members for these jobs were working at capacity. So the best person to move heaven and earth to get a project back on task was me, and I am still the point person for some of these projects, I’m on weekly calls, doing outreach, etc. its been HELL for me the past 4 months adding these to my workload but I felt that I had broken the client’s trust and had to be personally responsible for seeing this through.
When you succeed, do you see a window in front of you or a mirror?
I’ve already talked about why most people will never know if I am successful. However, when I look at my mistakes, I use the window and mirror metaphor, and I recommend all people do this…When things go well, you look through a window, look at everyone out there and give them credit for the success and the contributions they have made to create the success. When things don’t go well, look out at your team like there is a mirror in front of you instead of a window. Meaning, take the blame and don’t accuse others, and learn how to improve.
On Pg 119 – a part of the book that resonated with me was taking responsibility for your results BUILDS trust… (win or lose, own it)
There is a VAST chasm between:
- I called the customer vs I closed the sale
- I took a class vs I learned how to give an effective presentation
- Talking smack on your company vs quitting and finding a company you like working for
- I tried vs I did
Remember this… Beginners are many, finishers are few
Getting people to trust you is as much about how they feel as what you freaking deliver. Creating a great plan for the client, builds trust as you manage the day to day of that plan, they will see that you are on time, and are knocking out tasks and moving things along. If that plan doesn’t ultimately drive the outcome this will chip away at their trust over time. Trust is a combination of how you act, but also how you DELIVER. There are 2 dimensions of trust in the book, personal trust and expertise trust. Personal is the warmer & fuzzier part of trust / delivering is the concrete part.
When I took over one of the under-performing projects as the account manager it had 3 keywords on page 1, about 10 on page 2, today there are about 12 on page 1 and about 30 on page 2. In only 2 months after the first account manager worked on it for 6 months. That is STARTING to rebuild trust with that client, but we still have a LONG way to go. This is what I call giving a scent…with every passing week we get closer and closer, and its my hope that the client feels that, and with each week we are re-building trust as the results are taking form.
Guys remember trust is fragile.
This year I had to let someone go who was doing well because they did something to break my trust, it was a hard decision, but one I know was right. As I went through hours trying to see what happened when this client was ignored, I said, hold up! If I am at the point where I am checking your hours, we’re done. I don’t want that for YOU (to feel like someone is always watching you) and I REFUSE to have my job description become “hours checker”, as that is not fun for me.
The trust was broken and it was time to part ways. We both learned and both moved on. The client was shocked, but their response was, we TRUST you and we TRUST SEER, so if you are telling me this was the right thing to do, we believe that these issues would have manifested themselves down the road in ways we don’t see now and you are protecting us from that happening.
So when I look back at 2012, here are some examples that broke and built trust with me, and one thing I am still kicking myself for.
The actions that Broke Down Trust in 2012
- This year many relationships were damaged (not always forever) that need repair, simply because of trust…
- The company who I respected that I found out had a massive link network, even though on stage they talk all RCS
- The company who I respected that charged a client almost to 10k remove links they built after that client got hit, we said F it and hired an intern on our dime to remove the links we felt so bad for this company. Ultimately the client took the project in house, as we couldn’t battle the penalty and their TRUST in agencies was damaged so much
- The contractors we used to help us with clients, that wrote “epic” blog posts while not responding to any of my emails asking for updates and constantly talked about how epic the posts were going to be. I had to watch you update twitter about your epic posts right after I had to call my client disappointing them once again that we wouldn’t deliver on our promises this month.
Twitter can break trust! For the record, we as an industry, have to watch what the F we say on twitter!! If you make promises and update twitter 30 times a day and come in late on a deliverable, do you think that BUILDS trust? How would you feel if you @‘ed or emailed support for a company you use, and they never responded but sent 35 tweets out that day about epic content, their dog, and “you go boy”?? There is a person who prompted this post 5 years ago, they broke my trust then, and haven’t been sent a referral since, that one tweet coupled with his actions has impacted easily 200k-300k in referrals over 5 years. Yet he thinks we’re friends.
Now ask yourself, do you do that to your teammates, to your clients, to your family? I’m still struggling with how to use twitter, but I am cognizant of how that can look,so I watch when I tweet.
- The web design firm that won a big award by stuffing the ballot box with their employees and interns, does that build trust? Or does it say that you care so much about winning that you’ll stuff the ballot box? Did your friends just check your name off or did they actually review all the entrants and make an honest vote? This year SEER had a chance to win Philadelphia’s best places to work, I said SEER will never “coach” or “provide guidance” to people on how to answer how they feel about SEER, as a result we came in 3rd place. The company that won…had layoffs and we get a ton of their people’s resumes. Hopefully I showed my team that I don’t place awards or industry perceptions over HONESTY, ever.
- Watching their interns vote for a company they only worked at for 5 days, speaks to the company but also the person…how can you vote for a company to win something if you don’t know anything about them, that shows a major lack of integrity. When someone asks you to vote for them for something, ask them “why” – ask them what they have done to deserve winning, if you just check off a check box, that is a lack of personal integrity. I don’t RT stuff b/c people ask me, I RT stuff b/c I think people will get value. Don’t compromise YOUR integrity to do a favor for someone.
- The “friend” who talks smack on my real friends in the industry, focus your energy elsewhere.
- The person who sold their company to basically cover debt, but talks about their “exit” only showing the good side and not the full truth.
- The client who didn’t pay us after we made a strong ROI, but constantly updated Facebook with his trips to Vegas to see various DJs.
The actions that Built Up Trust in 2012
- The time Joe Hall, DM’ed me as I shouted out an RCS example where there was tons of spam they were doing I didn’t see, he could have taken that as an opportunity to blow up my spot.
- Or when Jen Lopez emailed me about the SUB PAR outreach we did to her
- When Tom Critchlow referred a client to us whom we already worked with another division of the company when Distilled had a conflict, that relationship has flourished so much since, by me trusting Tom enough to tell him who our clients are, he actually was able to help us, showed mad integrity on his part.
- When stuff hit the fan and John at Designbysoap.com pulled so many late nights to help us deliver for the client, I made a lot of mistakes and was under a lot of pressure after taking this client over, yet I have never seen a contractor take the mistakes that I made and say, I’m here for you and I will help you, like he did.
- Paul May of Buzzstream showed amazing patience with our team and a true desire to see us get the most out of their tools, he took the promises they made personally and did everything he could (along with his team) to help us well after the sale.
- A certain well known SEO who worked with SEER this year and gave us a lot of critical feedback that is helping me to make a better company, would link to you, but I don’t think you want that out there 😉
- Some of my all time favorites, Rand Fishkin, Will Critchlow, and Shawn Collins
- Rand I love how you always tell me when you disagree with me, having friends who will tell you straight up is key to building trust, I need critics more than cheerleaders to improve

- I’m not going to mention team members b/c the list would get too long (remember if I don’t trust you, I’m recommending we part ways), but I have to shout out Crystal Anderson, the person who when she says she’ll do something never skips a beat…you’ve made growing this business fun, if I had to do it all w/o ya we’d be a LOT smaller.
- The friends who work at competing agencies who would let me know if a client of ours was shopping around, I dunno if I could even do that, but you’ve challenged me to with your openness.
- The vendors like Rackspace and Basecamp that are always there to help when we have issues
The thing I did to break trust last year that I’m kicking myself over:
The one thing I am still kicking myself over is showing up 5 minutes late for my panel at Distilled’s London conference, I know it was 5 minutes, but the stress I probably put on Will, Duncan, and Lyndsey made me feel horrible. Distilled has been so good to me and the SEER crew over the years, and I let them down, even if it was for 5 minutes. I hated that.
Ask yourself…
Tonight when you put your head on the pillow, think about how you treated people, your family, your clients, your team members, and ask yourself if they treated me that way would I trust them more or less? Remember trust is a lot like cheating on a spouse…the act of cheating can erase 10 years of faithfulness in 10 minutes. If you are faithful for 5,259,480 minutes out of 5,259,490 over 10 years of marriage your significant other ain’t gonna be ok with the argument that you are trustworthy 99.9999% of the time, so lets treat trust that same way, its easy to break in minutes, but takes years to build. (yeah Google how many minutes are in a year, and see a nice surprise)
Lastly, on pg 215 there was a quote…
“When you make a commitment you build hope, when you keep it you build trust.”
If you want the book LMK, I’m willing to send out 50 copies on my dime (US only) that’s how much I believe this book and its core message have impacted me this year, maybe we can get @coveylink to match my 50?? Just leave a comment below with your thoughts (even if you think I’m an ass for writing this) but if you want it let me know. I’ll try to figure out a way to get you a copy – for now reading this might be a great start.







